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yzaddict106 · 06-20-2008, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by stunt-ur

and he has the power to say i cant come over anymore.

Man, I was NEVER allowed over. Still not. sucks

EddieNewYork · 06-20-2008, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Trip

I'll be needing to see a picture before I give an opinion.

lmao!!

On a more serious note. Imho, I wouldn't move over a girl. I've seen it happen so many times. Boyfriends and girlfriends moving from the west to the east and vice versa... all for what? To have your heart broken by the other person after a year if that. Now the person who moved is left in a strange city for what? Nothing!!

Especially at your age, hell no.

flyn62 · 06-20-2008, 03:26 PM

before u pay for her stuff propose so u have almost a sure thing to get your money back ( assuming she sais yes haha) when she is done with school and has a good job!

dood · 06-20-2008, 04:12 PM

Things always work out and you know that if things where meant to be then so be it.
It's always easiest to give advice but when that person is the one holding on to the bars things change so much.
Be patient but most of all don't be a suck ass. If she loves you as much as you do her. then you 2 will be together forever. period.

Wynn96 · 06-20-2008, 09:56 PM

It's a girl. You have to realize that it most likely will not last, and look out for yourself and your future. If it's meant to be, it will happen. If not, you will be glad you got on anything and everything you see in college and have no regrets. (And any married guys can back me on that)

stunt-ur · 06-21-2008, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by shw911

Don't get me wrong and I know what your saying and understand how you must feel.
Here are some thoughts:
**Put yourself in his shoes.** It's his child (after all, he spent 17 years of his life and 17 years of $ raising her). You can be the nicest guy, but he will still chose what he wants.
You might understand it when you have children (I have a daughter). Besides, raising a boy vs a girl these days presents many different challenges. Parents almost always will be more strict with their daughters when it comes to dating.

So, start your business (as a local track will be benificial to your business AND customers). As a future businessman, you have to set emotions asides sometimes.
You are YOUNG (and so is she). Don't rush into this commitment just yet. Women do change from their teens into their 20's and then in the 30's and so on...
Good luck :thumsup

Stunt-ur...you're a bright guy from what I gather here, so do your own thing for a while, establish yourself and her dad might change his mind...and so might you. He might decide to pay for half of her schooling too...you'll never know.

Yeah I understand what you are saying, but it is just SO frustrating on my end. Almost like, man when are you going to let her off of her leash man.

The Nutty Professor · 06-21-2008, 09:00 AM

Stuntur you keep mentioning HIM. It's almost like a competition and who gets to decide what happens in the end? Step back and check yourself and make sure this whole thing isn't about 2 guys competing over her. Of course it's not for the same reason but it doesn't have to be. It's the male dominance role thing going on. I don't know how many times I've seen (I'm a social engineer) this it's the father wanting to lord over his "pride" (As in lion pride) and you the young cub trying to form his "pride". The 2 clash because one has to give up something for the other to gain. The "I'll pay for college" is his hold on her and leverage over you. If You follow his rules you can become part of "his pride" which is moving with them and he pays. He gains one more member and his pride grows. Yeah lord of the jungle sort of stuff ain't it. He sounds like the type of person you can not become friendly with because he always on his guard for usurpers. Paranoid is the word I'm looking for. I'm not saying he's not a nice guy...to other guys who are not a threat. Yeah Nutty P has gone on a rant and it's over. Long story short this guy is never going to change even if you marry her. He might get worse.

newguy · 06-21-2008, 11:07 AM

dude lett her move. i left my girlfreind for about a year for boot camp and trch school, then only saw her twice the 6 months after i got to my first base. we are now married and have a little one. she is 19 and i am 20. it will work. lett her go to school and go visit when you can afford the gas. or marry her and tell him to f*#k off

Grafixxs · 06-21-2008, 03:44 PM

You are crazy if you think she will not wanna date other guys in college.

Stay were you are and let her move....listen too us older guys on this, you will thank us later.

Wynn96 · 06-22-2008, 02:16 AM

Lol I'm 19 too, and it sucks man. On one hand I wanna keep her around, but on the other hand I know it won't work. She WILL wanna see someone else eventually. Let me guess, you're her first. Don't admit it, but 99% of the girls that say they are in "love" are with their "first". Mine is. I gotta remind her all the time that I'm dating her for fun, not necessarily forever. You've gotta be the sensible one. Good luck, whatever you decide.

stunt-ur · 06-22-2008, 04:34 AM

well i kind of confronted her about it last night while i was working on my bike. and needless to say, it brought tears to her eyes talking about it because i said i really dont want to go because i have too much for me here, friends, tracks, and jobs.

if it absolutely means i HAVE to move to stay with her, then i guess that is what i will do. but no, there is no way im just going to sit back here and let her move and go to college and me be miles away. WAYYYYY too much temptation there, for her and me. Now I am positive that I won't do anything, and I know she won't either. I don't want to go into too many details, but I know she won't cheat on me. But there is no way I will feel comfortable with a girlfriend miles away that I see once a month or so.

i am not sure what i am going to do. I have exactly one school year to think on it, so I guess we will see how that goes...

DC50 · 06-22-2008, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by dood

Things always work out and you know that if things where meant to be then so be it.
It's always easiest to give advice but when that person is the one holding on to the bars things change so much.
Be patient but most of all don't be a suck ass. If she loves you as much as you do her. then you 2 will be together forever. period.

I'm a strong beleaver in the "if things were ment to be they will work out"

The girl I am now engaged to broke up with me about 4 years ago because she wasnt ready for a long term thing... well she came back into my life after two years of not talking to her. We have been dateing ever since we got back in touch with one another.

If its ment to be things will work them selves out. Like I said she lived 8 hours away and it didnt bug me, ok well it kinda did but thats what phones are for.

But I dated another chick that moved 4hrs away for work and I couldnt put up with it (plus the first chick I was talking about came back into my life) so I dumbed her after dateing her for two years.

Like dood said its easy for people to tell you what to do, but when your put in that spot your the only one that can make the right decision. If you think she is the one then go for it. Hell your young, now is the time to move around.

Hope that made sense.

wayfastwhitey · 06-22-2008, 05:48 PM

**** girls get money......think about it

stunt-ur · 06-22-2008, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ikp460

do not move to stay with a girl you willm regret it and hold it against her . tell her you can't go and tell her she is more than welcome here. but she will have to be able to support herself and not be dependant on you. you know me and you know the situation im in with my girl . dont put yourself in that situation.

yeah i know man. i dont want to be in your shoes lol

josh302 · 06-22-2008, 07:47 PM

plenty of butt down here fool. You are at the funny age right now, between high school and 21.

Edit:

Matt I know you are responsible and make good decisions, I call these life changing decisions “a fork in the road”, often the thing you want to do is not the same as the right thing to do. The most difficult is realizing when you are at one of these many “forks”, don’t listen to anyone’s advise, listen to yourself, you know what you need to do.

Portland · 06-24-2008, 07:41 AM

I wanted to comment on this thread, but i don't know what to say. So good luck with this. I tend to lean towards letting her move out there, and you stay home and set up shop. alternate weekends. if it doesn't work out, then be glad you didn't move out there.

X7rocks · 06-24-2008, 08:01 AM

isnt she gonna be 18? she should take his money and ditch with you maybe go to cancun or something

Catlin G · 06-24-2008, 09:04 AM

ok shes 17 goin on 18 ... i have a lil sister whos this age and there aint no way in hell my dad or i would let her live with some other guy .... like others wer sayin her dad has raised her for 17yrs ... you've dated her for 1yr .... now do you really think in her dads mind hes gonna think "hey yeah this 19 yr old kid knows whats best for my daughter cuz he "LOVES" her , ill just let him take care of her now" no ... i dont think so ... If your not living on your own yet and taking care of yourself with your expenses ... than how and the hell are you gonna provide for 2? .... im 23 and my wife is 20 we live in rent house that her parents dont make us pay rent on just the bills ... iv got a company truck and gas card that i dont have to pay for .... and we still live from pay check to pay check... so married or not married to its alot of responsibility to live on your own and provide for another person.... so to get the ball in your court ... your gonna have to prove to her dad that you can do all those things ... and on top of that doin it without wanting to kill each other in the process (meaning you and your girl) cuz dating one another and live together are 2 different thing ... so yeah good luck with that ... you need to listen to the dad and drop the hes a bad guy attitude ... if not your gonna get yourself in a situation that ends the relationship faster that living a long distance from each other ... and hes gonna respect that more than you acting like you can do the job hes been doin for yrs now

06-20-2008, 03:26 PM	#23 (permalink)
flyn62 3rd Gear Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: maple valley Posts: 3,077	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! before u pay for her stuff propose so u have almost a sure thing to get your money back ( assuming she sais yes haha) when she is done with school and has a good job!

06-20-2008, 04:12 PM	#24 (permalink)
dood 3rd Gear Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Washington Posts: 3,284 My Mood:	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! Things always work out and you know that if things where meant to be then so be it. It's always easiest to give advice but when that person is the one holding on to the bars things change so much. Be patient but most of all don't be a suck ass. If she loves you as much as you do her. then you 2 will be together forever. period.

06-20-2008, 09:56 PM	#25 (permalink)
Wynn96 1st Gear Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: LaVista NE Posts: 234	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! It's a girl. You have to realize that it most likely will not last, and look out for yourself and your future. If it's meant to be, it will happen. If not, you will be glad you got on anything and everything you see in college and have no regrets. (And any married guys can back me on that)

06-21-2008, 09:00 AM	#27 (permalink)
The Nutty Professor 2nd Gear Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia (Rincon) Posts: 275 My Mood:	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! Stuntur you keep mentioning HIM. It's almost like a competition and who gets to decide what happens in the end? Step back and check yourself and make sure this whole thing isn't about 2 guys competing over her. Of course it's not for the same reason but it doesn't have to be. It's the male dominance role thing going on. I don't know how many times I've seen (I'm a social engineer) this it's the father wanting to lord over his "pride" (As in lion pride) and you the young cub trying to form his "pride". The 2 clash because one has to give up something for the other to gain. The "I'll pay for college" is his hold on her and leverage over you. If You follow his rules you can become part of "his pride" which is moving with them and he pays. He gains one more member and his pride grows. Yeah lord of the jungle sort of stuff ain't it. He sounds like the type of person you can not become friendly with because he always on his guard for usurpers. Paranoid is the word I'm looking for. I'm not saying he's not a nice guy...to other guys who are not a threat. Yeah Nutty P has gone on a rant and it's over. Long story short this guy is never going to change even if you marry her. He might get worse.

06-21-2008, 11:07 AM	#28 (permalink)
newguy PM Newbie Join Date: May 2008 Location: las vegas Posts: 51	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! dude lett her move. i left my girlfreind for about a year for boot camp and trch school, then only saw her twice the 6 months after i got to my first base. we are now married and have a little one. she is 19 and i am 20. it will work. lett her go to school and go visit when you can afford the gas. or marry her and tell him to f*#k off

06-21-2008, 03:44 PM	#29 (permalink)
Grafixxs Old Fart Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Marshall,MI Posts: 2,014 My Mood:	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! You are crazy if you think she will not wanna date other guys in college. Stay were you are and let her move....listen too us older guys on this, you will thank us later.

06-22-2008, 02:16 AM	#30 (permalink)
Wynn96 1st Gear Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: LaVista NE Posts: 234	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! Lol I'm 19 too, and it sucks man. On one hand I wanna keep her around, but on the other hand I know it won't work. She WILL wanna see someone else eventually. Let me guess, you're her first. Don't admit it, but 99% of the girls that say they are in "love" are with their "first". Mine is. I gotta remind her all the time that I'm dating her for fun, not necessarily forever. You've gotta be the sensible one. Good luck, whatever you decide.

06-22-2008, 04:34 AM	#31 (permalink)
stunt-ur 3rd Gear Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 3,366 My Mood:	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! well i kind of confronted her about it last night while i was working on my bike. and needless to say, it brought tears to her eyes talking about it because i said i really dont want to go because i have too much for me here, friends, tracks, and jobs. if it absolutely means i HAVE to move to stay with her, then i guess that is what i will do. but no, there is no way im just going to sit back here and let her move and go to college and me be miles away. WAYYYYY too much temptation there, for her and me. Now I am positive that I won't do anything, and I know she won't either. I don't want to go into too many details, but I know she won't cheat on me. But there is no way I will feel comfortable with a girlfriend miles away that I see once a month or so. i am not sure what i am going to do. I have exactly one school year to think on it, so I guess we will see how that goes...

06-22-2008, 05:48 PM	#33 (permalink)
wayfastwhitey 3rd Gear Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Long Beach Posts: 3,108 My Mood:	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! **** girls get money......think about it

06-22-2008, 07:47 PM	#35 (permalink)
josh302 2nd Gear Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: screwpaypal.com Posts: 527	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! plenty of butt down here fool. You are at the funny age right now, between high school and 21. Edit: Matt I know you are responsible and make good decisions, I call these life changing decisions “a fork in the road”, often the thing you want to do is not the same as the right thing to do. The most difficult is realizing when you are at one of these many “forks”, don’t listen to anyone’s advise, listen to yourself, you know what you need to do. Last edited by josh302; 06-22-2008 at 08:38 PM.

06-24-2008, 07:41 AM	#36 (permalink)
Portland Я выпиваю мочу Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: On the Moon Posts: 567	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! I wanted to comment on this thread, but i don't know what to say. So good luck with this. I tend to lean towards letting her move out there, and you stay home and set up shop. alternate weekends. if it doesn't work out, then be glad you didn't move out there.

06-24-2008, 08:01 AM	#37 (permalink)
X7rocks 3rd Gear Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Maryland Posts: 1,013	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! isnt she gonna be 18? she should take his money and ditch with you maybe go to cancun or something

06-24-2008, 09:04 AM	#38 (permalink)
Catlin G 3rd Gear Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Baton Rouge, City of Central LA Posts: 1,211 My Mood:	Re: HUGE issue, tough decision! ok shes 17 goin on 18 ... i have a lil sister whos this age and there aint no way in hell my dad or i would let her live with some other guy .... like others wer sayin her dad has raised her for 17yrs ... you've dated her for 1yr .... now do you really think in her dads mind hes gonna think "hey yeah this 19 yr old kid knows whats best for my daughter cuz he "LOVES" her , ill just let him take care of her now" no ... i dont think so ... If your not living on your own yet and taking care of yourself with your expenses ... than how and the hell are you gonna provide for 2? .... im 23 and my wife is 20 we live in rent house that her parents dont make us pay rent on just the bills ... iv got a company truck and gas card that i dont have to pay for .... and we still live from pay check to pay check... so married or not married to its alot of responsibility to live on your own and provide for another person.... so to get the ball in your court ... your gonna have to prove to her dad that you can do all those things ... and on top of that doin it without wanting to kill each other in the process (meaning you and your girl) cuz dating one another and live together are 2 different thing ... so yeah good luck with that ... you need to listen to the dad and drop the hes a bad guy attitude ... if not your gonna get yourself in a situation that ends the relationship faster that living a long distance from each other ... and hes gonna respect that more than you acting like you can do the job hes been doin for yrs now

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